Four Things I Learned from the Movie "It Takes a Man and a Woman"

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Dalawa. Dalawang beses kong pinanood ang movie ni John Lloyd at Sarah. This is not a movie review. I will not tell the history of the story as everyone knows it well. Dahil hindi ako maka-get over, I will just blog about it. I will talk about the things/lessons I learned. This is one of the best Filipino movies that is worth your money.

Watching the movie made me realized many things in life.

1.  TRUST

Trust is a big word. This is a big factor in any relationship. Sa panahon ngayon, mahirap na talaga ang magtiwala, sa relasyon, trabaho o sa anumang aspeto ng buhay. Sa trabaho, kung hindi mo nagawang mabuti ang trabaho mo, mawawalan ng tiwala sa iyo ang employer mo. Sa isang relasyon naman, ang tiwala ang pinakamahalaga. Kapag nasira ang tiwala, mahirap ng ibalik. Kapag ang tiwala nabawasan, sunud-sunod na ang hinala. Better yet, maghiwalay na lang. Gaya ni Laida (Sarah). Nasira ang tiwala niya sa tatay niya kaya ganoon na lang ang sakit ng sirain din ni Miggy (JL) ang kanyang tiwala. Kaya kailangang pakaingatan natin ang tiwalang ipinagkatiwala sa atin.

2.  FORGIVE

Mahirap talagang magpatawad. Ng masira ni Miggy ang tiwala ni Laida, hindi niya ito napatawad. Hindi niya binigyan ng second chance. Hindi naging madali para kay Laida ang magpatawad, ang patawarin ang kanyang tatay at si Miggy. Sabi ng nanay ni Laida "Forgiveness is a choice". Nagpatawad siya dahil mahal niya. In reality, It's easy to forget but to forgive will take time lalo na kung nasaktan tayo ng sobra. The movie teaches us to forgive and let go of the past. Sometimes people we love hurts us, it's okay to hate them for a while but we must learn to forgive to make us better person and to move forward.

3.  LOVE

Just like forgiveness, love is a choice. Love goes  hand in hand with trust. The movie teaches us about love of family. It also teaches us on how to love again. Kahit nasaktan tayo, patuloy pa rin tayong nagmamahal. Gaya ni Laida, sa dalawang taong paghihiwalay nila ni Miggy ay hindi nawala ang kayang pagmamahal. Gaya ng nanay ni Laida, kahit nagkahiwalay sila ng asawa niya, pinili niyang patawarin at mahalin ang kanyang asawa. Gaya ng mga kapatid ni Miggy, even though he messed up, they still  believe in him and support him because of love of family.

4.  BE GOOD

Ang pinakagusto ko sa lahat ay ang speech ng tatay ni Miggy about being good and always believe in goodness. I don't have a copy of the full transcript of the speech but it goes something like this (based from what I remembered)

"Being the best means being the least. Madalas sa kagustuhan nating maging pinakamagaling, nakakalimutan nating maging mabuti. To be good is being able to say sorry and to forgive those who hurt you. We lose sight of the fact that everyday is a struggle to just be better. Doing good is what kept my family together… for the future of our children, and for our children’s children. It’s not the easiest, but that is probably the best legacy that a person can leave behind – to always believe in goodness and just be a good man." – Luis Montenegro

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